Ok, you guys all gather round here....I have something to share with you. You know how I said I would never be in another relationship and blah blah blah...and I truly believed that I would not be in another one...I just wasnt interested.
My neighbors have lived next door to me for probably about 15 years. They have been wonderful and I have always gotten along well with them.
The Mrs. had a fondness for taking too many pills and wasnt always functioning as she should be.She was only a couple years older than me and if we would see each other outside we always talked, but we didnt visit back and forth. She had a lot of problems with depression and over medicating.
However, if the Mr. was outside and I was outside he and I would talk to each other like old friends over the fence and he cut my front yard for me when he did the grass. There was absolutely nothing ever going on between me and the Mr., we just always enjoyed conversing. And even though we both knew his wife abused drugs, it just wasnt talked about. He never lost respect for the fact that she was his wife. She passed away this past August, he took care of her till the end and kept her at home.
After she passed he went away to his daughters off and on and stayed with them for a week here and there. I would see him when he was out in the yard and ask him how he was doing and we would talk. When I had my open heart surgery and came home from the hospital, he was one of the first ones to come into the house and see me. He had open heart surgery a few years ago so were swapping stories and comparing scars.
A few weeks ago, in the evening, my phone rang, I answered it and it was him. He said he was checking on Mom and I, and he wondered how we were doing....I said...." well thank you for checking, and we are doing just fine"...and that was that. I thought it was very kind of him to check on us.A couple weeks later he showed up at the front door with a gift of cheeses and crackers for Mom and I. I invited him in and he sat down on the couch and we got to talking and he said he wanted to come over when he called the week before ,but he didnt know how to say it. I said well you are always welcome. This past weekend he and I went to Red Lobster to eat on Friday and to Sams club shopping...we had a super time! There were no awkward moments and we just talked like we always do. He is very much a gentleman. We bickered over whos paying because I told him he was not paying for every meal, it wasnt fair, and he said when I eat out with him, he pays. He carries my bags for me....he wont allow me to lift things. Saturday we went back to Red Lobster and took my Mom ( she was hungry for shrimp), then we did a bit of shopping. In the evenings he comes over and watches tv with us.
Tonight we went for a walk because we both try to walk everyday. It is really a cool thing.....(as you all know my Ex was an alcoholic and not the nicest person in the world...well, as a matter of fact he was an ass.) I am so unused to being treated the way my neighbor treats me. It is so wonderful to be treated so nice.
When we sit in the living room and watch tv , my Mother sits in there too. (Dont forget Mom has alzeimers.)My daughter told her she should go to her room and let him and I sit there and have some privacy. Mom said....I am NOT leaving her alone!....lol, I had to laugh. You would think I was a juvenile delinquint that had to be watched 24/7. When he leaves at night and I walk out on the porch with him, my Mom comes out too! Do you suppose she is afraid I will get pregnant???? LoL. At any rate, this relationship is new to he and I both and it will progress as it progresses. But it is nice to have someone who treats me so nice and he makes me happy so I wanted to share it with you guys. Ill get pictures up soon so you can see him.