Tuesday, January 08, 2008

The Latest!

Ok, you guys all gather round here....I have something to share with you. You know how I said I would never be in another relationship and blah blah blah...and I truly believed that I would not be in another one...I just wasnt interested.



My neighbors have lived next door to me for probably about 15 years. They have been wonderful and I have always gotten along well with them.

The Mrs. had a fondness for taking too many pills and wasnt always functioning as she should be.She was only a couple years older than me and if we would see each other outside we always talked, but we didnt visit back and forth. She had a lot of problems with depression and over medicating.

However, if the Mr. was outside and I was outside he and I would talk to each other like old friends over the fence and he cut my front yard for me when he did the grass. There was absolutely nothing ever going on between me and the Mr., we just always enjoyed conversing. And even though we both knew his wife abused drugs, it just wasnt talked about. He never lost respect for the fact that she was his wife. She passed away this past August, he took care of her till the end and kept her at home.

After she passed he went away to his daughters off and on and stayed with them for a week here and there. I would see him when he was out in the yard and ask him how he was doing and we would talk. When I had my open heart surgery and came home from the hospital, he was one of the first ones to come into the house and see me. He had open heart surgery a few years ago so were swapping stories and comparing scars.


A few weeks ago, in the evening, my phone rang, I answered it and it was him. He said he was checking on Mom and I, and he wondered how we were doing....I said...." well thank you for checking, and we are doing just fine"...and that was that. I thought it was very kind of him to check on us.A couple weeks later he showed up at the front door with a gift of cheeses and crackers for Mom and I. I invited him in and he sat down on the couch and we got to talking and he said he wanted to come over when he called the week before ,but he didnt know how to say it. I said well you are always welcome. This past weekend he and I went to Red Lobster to eat on Friday and to Sams club shopping...we had a super time! There were no awkward moments and we just talked like we always do. He is very much a gentleman. We bickered over whos paying because I told him he was not paying for every meal, it wasnt fair, and he said when I eat out with him, he pays. He carries my bags for me....he wont allow me to lift things. Saturday we went back to Red Lobster and took my Mom ( she was hungry for shrimp), then we did a bit of shopping. In the evenings he comes over and watches tv with us.

Tonight we went for a walk because we both try to walk everyday. It is really a cool thing.....(as you all know my Ex was an alcoholic and not the nicest person in the world...well, as a matter of fact he was an ass.) I am so unused to being treated the way my neighbor treats me. It is so wonderful to be treated so nice.


When we sit in the living room and watch tv , my Mother sits in there too. (Dont forget Mom has alzeimers.)My daughter told her she should go to her room and let him and I sit there and have some privacy. Mom said....I am NOT leaving her alone!....lol, I had to laugh. You would think I was a juvenile delinquint that had to be watched 24/7. When he leaves at night and I walk out on the porch with him, my Mom comes out too! Do you suppose she is afraid I will get pregnant???? LoL. At any rate, this relationship is new to he and I both and it will progress as it progresses. But it is nice to have someone who treats me so nice and he makes me happy so I wanted to share it with you guys. Ill get pictures up soon so you can see him.

23 comments:

Remiman said...

Catch,
That is wonderful ;)
rel

Elween said...

wow, maybe that's a good start for you and him :) man should not be alone. it's good to have a companion :)

LauraJ said...

I'm so happy for you I'm going to cry! Now where's mine??

Dave said...

Happiness is always the best part of any relationship. You seem to have discovered the person who pushes your happy button. That is wonderful. Let the journey continue and be grateful for having the opportunity to live and laugh and love.
This is great news.

Queenie said...

Thats great news Catch, I am so happy for you. Your mum makes me laugh, but just don't go getting pregnant!!!!

Bazza & Wifey said...

Fantastic!

Akelamalu said...

You're not pregnant are you????

LOL joking!

It warmed my heart to read this Catch, you soooo deserve to be treated like the lady that you are. May it long continue.

PS Can I come to the wedding? ((wink))

Big Pissy said...

Catch! How wonderful!

I teared up reading this...I'm just SO happy for you!

Your neighbor sounds like a really special person.

p.s. I wanna come to the wedding too! ;-)

Tug said...

Oh Catch...YAY. This post just made me smile. AWESOME...I hope things work out for you both, and please use protection. ;-)

Thank you for the happy.

Nea said...

How sweet, and it couldn't happen to a more deserving person. You know, I think companionship is a driving force when we get older. It is just nice to have someone to go to dinner with, to talk to, put a puzzle together with, share a sunset. As to the "rest" you know, sex, well can't speak for you, but for me, it is basically a thing of the past. But I would love to have someone to just hold hands with and enjoy life. Yes, I am married, but that doesn't mean a thing, I still don't have any of that. sigh. So I am thrilled for you.......bravo.

DIXIECHICK said...

No one needs to be alone....you are such a sweet wonderful woman, I hope he is just as sweet and wonderful...match made in heaven! I am so happy for you! Can't wait to see pictures of him.

Jill said...

Sounds like a great start to a nice relationship for all of you. Enjoy!

smileymamaT said...

Aw! A courting neighbor! How sweet that your Mom does not want to leave you two alone... tee hee... he sounds very nice.

Cindy said...

AWWW, Catch! I knew you were too nice to end up staying alone forever! I'm so happy for you! Now remember, no, never mind- you're a big girl...

eZ said...

hey catch
he must have liked your big girl panties! How wonderful to find someone as nice as that in your own backyard. And he understands your mom and includes her. I think you hit the jackpot.
Give the chief a hug for me!-ha
take care and be good to yourself

Dr.John said...

I just love a post filled with good news. If anyone deserves to be happy its you. Your mother just has to adjust.

Palm Springs Savant said...

Catch- this is GREAT news. I am so happy for you! I guess there are a few nice guys still out there!

Enjoy yourself.

Kat said...

Wonderful, great fantastic news! But I thought you had a boyfriend?

Ol' Lady said...

So sweet :) you certainly deserve to be treated good.
Glad to hear that your mother is on the job of watchin out for ya :o

TK Kerouac said...

This sounds like very happy news and some things happen for a reason...this is one of these situations where it has
I have a very good feeling about this one Catch
Go for it! You deserve it!

Michelle said...

I can see you smiling all the way through that post! :) Have fun!

MarmiteToasty said...

Can you see the size of me smile from over there :)..... oh my, you put the biggest of smiles on me face today..... mega chufted....

Do I need to give you the talk about the birds and the bees? *hehehehe

ps...... does he have a brother that I could ave? LOL

x

patty said...

Catch, I'm new to your blog. I was googling (I'm a big googler) someone, Kaylynn Williford, she is the one who prosecuted Andrea Yates (I just met her today, she spoke at the school I teach) I happened on your blog because you wrote about Andrea. I just wanted to say, I agree with you, what ever happened, I wanted them to prosecute Mr. Yates, I feel he is TOTALLY to blame. Don't know if this belongs on this post, it is a penny for my thoughts, and I also think you have a wonderful friend, and it sounds like you two are taking it very slowly, which is a good thing. I am lucky, I have a husband that is like your neighbor, he is very good to me, nice, kind, hard worker, etc. We have been married 21 wonderful years, you may want to "catch" him, he sounds like a keeper, just like my hubby. Good luck.