Wednesday, February 28, 2007



My Ex always had a habit of drinking early on New Years Eve, he would come home and fall asleep, so that took care of any New Years Eve plans we might have had.

The last New Years Eve that we were together, he did not go out and drink, he asked me if "we" had any plans. I mumbled something and let it go. That night I started getting dressed. He said " You didnt say we were going anywhere"...I said..."We are not"... " I am". He was furious as I continued to get ready. I had made plans with a bunch of friends unbeknownst to him. I wanted to go out and have "fun", not worry about if he was getting too much to drink . So I went...and I have to say I had a ball. I didnt get home till 4 am. He was still furious! I went right to bed. He accused me of all kind of things, but I was already on my way to la la land.

He did not talk to me for 2 weeks...which was fine with me. I knew our relationship was over ( for the second time). I thought of all those years he had partied and come home and went to sleep and I had not one teeny thought of feeling guilty! Soon after that we split up for the second time. And the last time.
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22 comments:

Pixie said...

Good For you!

Big Pissy said...

I hear ya!

I keep score too! *LOL*

Dr.John said...

After all of that the amazing thing is your still friends.

Chana said...

i agree with what dr. John saids. the amazing thing is how we can still care about our ex's and try the friendship road. not only for the kids but for ourselves....

in another train of thought..how i wish you could help me to kick butt so that i too can come out that strong and brave and not let anyone, anyone ever hurt me again..

you should start a teaching blog for the needy. i sign up first. ;p

Bluepaintred said...

YOU GO GIRL

you had every right to do that! it was about time he got a taste of his own medicine

Im proud of you

Tug said...

YEA.FOR.YOU. Nice......

Mr. Fabulous said...

Good for you.

You rock. You know that, right?

gunngirl said...

Good for you! That's a man for ya anyway. Reading thisI rememberd when you said he told you he still loved you. I guess the guilt was coming back to him.

Too late now. ha!

Gary said...

I think that is called the "double standard".

Tina Dray said...

Great job catch you really put him in his place

EZ said...

hey catch
it's YOUR party, I bet he is crying now. I have seen booze destroy many good people. I admire that you have a friendship with him. You are one of the kindest and caring women I know.
I wonder if the SIL agrees(throws head back and spews evil cackle)!

Catch said...

we are friends now, but it took many years for us to become friends, it didnt happen overnight. I think when he had a stroke and I agreed for him to come here and recuperate it may have made him a little more " gracious"...he is welcome here as long as he is not drinking. I am sorry to say after spending the Christmas holidays with his family (us), he went on a binge and has been on it ever since. Very sad. I am just happy I dont have to deal with it anymore.

Dan said...

Sounds like did the right thing Catch. And had plenty of fun to boot!

Remiman said...

Catch,
Alcohol has ruined many lives.
rel

Christine said...

I'm with Rel, I couldn't have said it any better. Alcohol has ruined so many lives.

There's this country song about this man who divorced his wife after so many years of marriage, and what's so great about it was she let herself GO and had a blast without him.
Good for you Catch! I wouldn't have felt guilty either!

Pendullum said...

So sad to read in the comments that he is on a binge since Christmas...
Even though you are free, I do not think you ever are... as you have kids together...
And you will always be there to support your children... Even if it is hearing of his binges and how they are coping with it...

Gingers Mom said...

It is really sad that the alcohol had to take over his life. It sounds like you truly loved this man at one time. But you have learned to move on and do what is best for you. You are SUCH a strong person.

Michelle said...

I can't believe he didn't talk to you for two whole weeks just because you decided to go out without him! I can see why you're no longer married :)

Bice said...

Payback's a bitch! You go girl!

Miss 1999 said...

You rock on girl! You finally realized that life was too short to not celebrate with your friends *hugs*

Mimi said...

Another hot new look!;-)

Even though I do not come by as often as I used to, I think of you everyday! I swear!

I love when people can not take what they dish out! What goes around comes back and smaks you! LOL!

Nea said...

this is so reminiscent of my past with husband number two....he also was a drinker, and would get a head start right from work. He often didn't bother to come home Friday night, I wouldn't see him until late Sunday. he never knew where he went or with whom. He just followed the crowd. Needless to say, I also never knew who he was sleeping with. When I ended that relationship, he was shocked. Go figure? I guess he thought I liked being a door mat. near the end of our relationship, I also just made my own plans and didn't include him (like he had done to me for so many years), and he didn't like it one little bit. I guess they live by the double standard and don't see life any other way.