Some of you may remember sometime ago I had a post up about my Uncle...the mountain man. ( thats what I call him) Well he has been in the hospital several times in the past couple months. When he comes into town he always stops here and has coffee and to visit with my Mother. It is usually always in the morning and of course everyone is up in no time b/c no one could sleep through his talking ( yelling). He has been going downhill, he has lost a lot of weight and very out of breath.
My brother called me about a week ago. He had stopped in to check on Uncle. He told me he was all swelled and talking out of his head. I said he needs to go to the hospital. My brother said yes, but he wont. Uncle has a son, but lets just say he doesnt pay a lot of attention to his Father. So the next morning my Brother stopped in before work, Unc was in the same shape. So brother got ahold of Uncs son and told him, he needs to be in the hospital. So said son took his Father to the hospital.
They did some test on him and we found out Thursday the he has lung cancer which has spread into his liver and his brain. Needless to say the whole family was very upset. This is the Uncle that let you drive his car when you were only 12, would give you a cigarette when you were 12, and tried to fix my brothers up with some of his wild women when they were in high school. ( My Mother would have killed him had she known!)
The Dr suggested Keith go into a Nursing Home...especially since he is not in his right mind, I agree. He gets very adamant! Well,Uncle said...no way. So son said he would take him home with him. That didnt even last for a whole day, by the end of the day Unc was in a resthome!
Now the bad thing is that Unc is pissed off at the world...( this was even before he found out how sick he was) . My brother took my Mother to the hospital to see him this week and he started yelling at my Mother about its her fault that he is in the hospital. He said "your kids put me here"...which is just not true. Well, when he started telling her that she told him " my kids have done more to take care of you than your own kids ever have!" ( which is very true) and with that..she walked out. She was very upset when she got home that day. You know its one of those cases where you can say what you want about your own kids....but no one else better speak a word against them! But we have always gone out of our way to make sure Uncle was invited to holiday dinners, we even took food into him when he just didnt want to attend. Unc is a little self centered bless his heart!
You have to understand the whole picture here. When anyone in the family has been in the hospital...Unc never went to visit them. And when anyone passed away Unc never even went to the funeral home. He didnt go when his own sister died. He says he doesnt like those places! I dont know anyone that does but we all have to go and pay our respects. But Unc never went out of his way for anyone. But we all still loved him, we just overlooked it. Now that Unc is so ill, all kind of people are going to see him!! My brothers and I just watch in amazement.
When my Father was dieing, we got him a hospital bed and put it in the livingroom. Unc was there when the bed came ( this was 14 years ago) and said he needed one of those hospital beds for his back. My Father bought him one....Unc used it for a while then he decided he didnt like it anymore so he just threw it outside of his house. Can you imagine what that looked like? Talk about your rednecks!
The Dr is saying Unc probably only has a couple of months. The whole family has just been a little off kilter all week over Unc. My Mother is still upset that he yelled at her. I tried to explain that he is not responsible for what he is saying. I really do not want to see him suffer, I wish he could close his eyes tonight and God would take him. In the past couple years he has been reading his Bible a lot. I hope God realizes he is not in his right mind with all the cussing and carrying on he is doing. He always did cuss and carry on when he got mad, but I really think he was trying to control himself better. Unc is a good guy, everyone in this town loves him....just ask Unc..he"ll tell you!
Please keep him in your prayers!